I Know That My Baby Died, So Stop Pretending It’s A Secret

  I’m the lady with the dead baby. It’s okay, I’m allowed to be so blunt because it’s my truth.  I am the lady whose baby died. One day my baby was living and the next day she died.  That is what happened.  It doesn’t offend me if you acknowledge this. It offends me when … More I Know That My Baby Died, So Stop Pretending It’s A Secret

When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

When your child has died, you may be introduced to the concept of the “new normal.”  This is the place where you are expected to reside after your loss.  It’s meant to be a place where life will go on, but it will go on differently.  I am not against the concept of a new … More When You Lose A Child, The “New Normal” Will Never Feel Normal

Where Do Babies Come From?: Why This Complicated Question Deserves A MORE Complicated Answer

Where do babies come from? It’s a question that we have all wondered and one that many of us will be pressured to answer.  No one would argue that it’s a complicated question.  So why do we work so hard to find an easy answer?  I have my ideas on why this is, but I will … More Where Do Babies Come From?: Why This Complicated Question Deserves A MORE Complicated Answer

Thank You Mr. Ramsey: Why That Cartoon of Barbara and Robin Mattered SO Much

Dear Marshall Ramsey, Thank you.  Those words don’t seem nearly big enough right now for the incredible gift you have given our community.  What community is that?  I’m talking about our community of bereaved parents.  Loss moms and dads.  We are a tribe of people being forced to live here on Earth without one or … More Thank You Mr. Ramsey: Why That Cartoon of Barbara and Robin Mattered SO Much

40 MORE Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

When I wrote my first list, 40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby, the response was overwhelming.  Moms and dads everywhere could relate to many of the items on the list. I also heard from many of you that the list was incomplete.  I agree.  Unfortunately, the list of things that SUCK after losing … More 40 MORE Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby

No matter how you’ve lost them, losing a baby sucks.  It really does. Here’s what else has the potential to suck after losing a baby. 1. Baby shower invites. 2. Social media. 3. Playgrounds. 4. Small talk. 5. Commercials for pregnancy tests. 6. Crying in the grocery store. 7. Crying at work. 8. Crying in … More 40 Things That Can Really Suck After Losing A Baby